Grumpy
Old Coot
Bob Stevens, The Muddled Male
I have been sitting here staring at
my computer for several hours hoping that Ann, my wife, would do or say
something that I could, through the fine art of exaggeration and embellishment,
turn into a humorous story for the Muddled Male column. But she is being stubborn and has so far
stayed clear of anything that I might distort to my advantage. She did call me a Twit twice during a two
minute disagreement over her trying to convince me that there were good Carb’s,
like fruit that I should eat because fruit contains nourishment, and bad
Carb’s, like my beloved French fries that I shouldn’t eat because French fries
contain only grease and salt. It was when
I said that a Carb’ is a Carb’ is a Carb’ and was unwilling to give up my
succulent French fries just for nourishment that she used the Twit word. And for that reason I am repeating an updated
version of a story I used in a Muddled Male column nearly five years ago.
I am rapidly
approaching my 79th birthday. That means
that I will soon be working on my 80th year, an age usually associated with
wisdom. Keeping in mind that I have
fifty-eight years of marriage contained within my more than seventy-eight years
of life, I feel duty bound to share some of that wisdom with others, especially
those young men who are thinking of getting married, or may have already taken
the step.
Let me begin by teaching you the
correct meaning of the word fret. In
your world a fret is one of those little lateral ridges that are located at precise
intervals up and down the neck of the guitar played by your favorite heavy
metal guitarist who presses the strings against one or more "frets"
to make the out-of-tune shrieking sound he calls music go up or down as he
screams spittle and naughty words into a thing called a microphone. I apologize for the long sentence, but I am
running out of space and don't have room for a bunch of short, declarative
sentences. A Fret in married life is
actually a verb whose synonyms are telling words like worry, fuss, vex, trouble,
bother, upset, or hassle. It is a tool
that will be used often by your wife to get you to do some chore you don't want
to do because you would rather be watching football at that particular moment.
Now the Lesson. Be alert to the "fret" because if you
respond carelessly she might bring out her weapon of mass destruction; the
nuclear freeze. It is a weapon with such
a sudden burst of negative energy that it has been known to turn a loving
relationship into a Randolph winter in the twinkling of a husband's blunder. Sadly, the only defensive weapon owned by the
husband of a fretter, is the crotchety.
That is crotchety as in grumpy old coot.
The problem with the crotchety is that a crotchety, carelessly used, can
be the thing that will instantly turn a fret into a nuclear freeze.
An example of the transition from
fret to nuclear freeze was our discussion this evening regarding good Carb’s
and bad Carb’s. Ann was fretting about
my eating habits. I responded like a
grumpy old coot. And our Sunday evening
meal became shards of tomato, raw turnips that I had to peal, and a peanut
butter and jelly sandwich. Desert
included raspberries as a demonstration by Ann of, in her words, good
Carb’ fruit. See how quickly a good
relationship can move from warm to cool.
You young men out there, don’t say I
didn’t warn you. By the way, Ann will
say that the Sunday’s menu choice was mine but I ask you, has the Muddled Male
ever fibbed to you?
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